There is some stupid shit going down on one of my friend’s tumblrs right now. In light of it, I’d just like to take the opportunity to say: if I ever say something awful? like, racist or transphobic or misogynistic or what-have-you? Odds are good I wasn’t aware of the implications of what I was saying.
I’d really love it if you’d call me on it… but I’d also really love if you’d be courteous enough to attack what I said, rather than attacking me directly. Because I really do try to maintain this blog as a safe, anti-oppressive space for everyone. Sometimes I fuck that up, and you have a right to be angry when I do! But attacking people rather than their ideas - acting like one comment is a direct indication of a person’s entire character, rather than a reflection of faulty logic or a poorly thought-out moment - doesn’t make spaces any safer. Quite the opposite, in fact.
So when you do call me out on my mistakes, I fully intend to apologize sincerely and thoroughly, remove or alter the offending material, and strive not to do it again. But I’d take it as a courtesy if the call-out I’m responding to takes the form of “you did a fucking stupid thing, please stop,” rather than “you’re a fucking stupid idiot, please die.”“
Thanks in advance.
In case I wasn’t clear enough before, Essie says things way better than I ever can.