Safe Space and my blog
There is some stupid shit going down on one of my friend’s tumblrs right now. In light of it, I’d just like to take the opportunity to say: if I ever say something awful? like, racist or transphobic or misogynistic or what-have-you? Odds are good I wasn’t aware of the implications of what I was saying.
I’d really love it if you’d call me on it… but I’d also really love if you’d be courteous enough to attack what I said, rather than attacking me directly. Because I really do try to maintain this blog as a safe, anti-oppressive space for everyone. Sometimes I fuck that up, and you have a right to be angry when I do! But attacking people rather than their ideas - acting like one comment is a direct indication of a person’s entire character, rather than a reflection of faulty logic or a poorly thought-out moment - doesn’t make spaces any safer. Quite the opposite, in fact.
Okay? Okay.
So when you do call me out on my mistakes, I fully intend to apologize sincerely and thoroughly, remove or alter the offending material, and strive not to do it again. But I’d take it as a courtesy if the call-out I’m responding to takes the form of “you did a fucking stupid thing, please stop,” rather than “you’re a fucking stupid idiot, please die.”“
Thanks in advance.
In case I wasn’t clear enough before, Essie says things way better than I ever can.
